The Game and how to Play it

Hey guys, first and foremost, I want to apologize for not posting anything for a while, Been out of town a lot the past 2 weeks but I’m back now to bring you the contents of my mind (at least the ones relevant to getting some gorgeous body in your bed this weekend) Anyway, Hope you all had an amazing Memorial Day Weekend.

Now I need help trying to figure out a way to shorten my posts. People have messaged me saying my posts are a bit too long and hard to read, and I understand you guys don’t have time to sit down and read these 5 paragraph essays I write every day. So anyone who can pitch me some ideas on how to limit all this knowledge into a simple short sweet guide, you will be rewarded :)

Also keep an eye out, planning a few Ebooks to be coming out around fall or late summer, they would be on the various parts of the game, fashion, grooming, etc.

Happy Hunting,

        -Nikki

Okay, warning in advance this is going to be long because there is a lot to say about Opening, I’m even going to give you guys some examples of openers to try out.

Opening is just the phase in your interaction where you walk up and you’re just now meeting the girl. It’s the part that’s going to be the hardest for a lot of you, it’s the hardest for me. To help ease the anxiety, there’s the three second rule, it’s one of the most important thigns in all of game.

The Three Second Rule: When you see a girl you want to talk to, you have 3 sconds to talk to her. No more, you just see her and go. The reason is because if you wait any longer, that’s when you start psyching yourself out, that’s when you say to yourself “wait, she’s too hot for me, what if she doesn’t like me, I’m not ready for this, I should probably get a drink first, what if she just makes fun of me, or flat out rejects me?” And dealing with that is not easier over time, once those questions get circulating in your mind, you’re going to walk up there, and probably blow it, you’ll be too nervous. Another reason is because if you wait too long, she will notice. She’ll notice you’ve been staring at her for way too long, and she’s bound to think you are a creep or a loser. So you see a girl, 1, 2, 3, go for it.

Now you’re going to need your opener, the opener is just a prepared script used to talk to a girl. It really doesn’t matter what you say, people are always saying they need some great line, truth is, what you say matters very little at this point. An opener just make you come in under the radar.

When you walk up to a group of girls, the first thing they’re going to think is, “what does he want” They just instantly assume you want to hit on them, so your opener cannot convey any kind of flirting or show interest. A good opener is “Hey, I was having an argument with a friend and I need a female opinion on something, who lies more girls or guys?” It’s not threatening, you’re not hitting on them, it’s under the radar.

After that, they’re going to be thinking “Is he gonna drag on all night?” So you have to give yourself what’s called a false time constraint. All that means is you let them know “I can only stay for a minute though because I have to get back to my friends.” It puts them at ease. To help with this use body language. Talk to them over your shoulder, rock on your back foot so that it seems you might leave at any moment. Lean back, not in when you talk to them. Believe it or not, body language says more than anything. (We’ll go into this when i discuss IOI’s in the next post)

Now you have to make sure you root the opener. Rooting the opener means you tell them why you’re asking. Before I realized this, people would ask me if i was doing a survey or something, or look at my kind of funny. This is easy, just say “I was having a debate with a friend.”

So with all that in mind, a good example of how an opener should sound is : “Hey guys, I can only stay for a minute I have to get back to my friends, but we were having this debate and maybe you could help, but which disney princess is the best?”

Now a list of openers you could use:

“Who lies more, girls or guys?”

“Which Disney princess is the best?”

“Quick question, what’s hotter a tattoo or a piercing?”

my personal favorite lol “Hey, I need your opinion on something, my friend and I were having this debate and your answer will totally change our lives. Do you floss before or after you brush your teeth?”

Hey guys, there are 3 things I need you to know, and internalize before we really get into this. If you can follow all 3 of these rules, you will learn, and adapt, and progress and your luck with women will definitely improve.

First I need you to expect to get worse before you get better. It sounds fucked up, but you guys have been learning the wrong shit your whole lives. I have too until I learned all this stuff. So it’s going to take some time to get used to everything, but once you do, it will pay off.

Rule Number One: We’ll start with the 3 second rule. It’s easy to understand and very important. When you see a girl you like, you have 3 seconds to approach her. If you don’t do it then, don’t bother at all, the reason this is important is:

1.) she will notice, and any longer than 3 seconds, you are the creep who’s been checking her out for too long

2.) you will get stuck in your own head. You will start thinking of all the what ifs and every little thing that could go wrong

3.) if you try to approach her after 3 seconds, and you mess up because of the previous reasons, you will have wrecked yourself for the rest of the night.

It’s too harmful to your self-esteem and to your game to wait any longer than that.

Rule Number Two: The other big rule, is try to internalize the idea that there are no failures in the field, just learning lessons. If you go in the field and you crash and burn, and you don’t learn from it, instead you just sit there and let it bum you out, you won’t get better, you’ll just feel bad, and there is no reason for that at all. So next time something goes wrong guys, don’t feel bad about it, make a mental note to think why that went wrong, and plan for it next time.

Rule Number Three: There is no such thing as a bitch, at least in terms of the field. When you first meet a girl, they might be cold, or bitchy, or something like that, they aren’t really like that, they’re just programmed to be that way to get rid of all needy and weak guys. It is a shit test. Do not let this phase you. Next time you’re in the field and a girl is being difficult or bitchy or cold, don’t just eject and tell yourself and your friends and your wing that she was being a bitch, push yourself, neg her, let her know you aren’t just some guy like all the others.

Rule Number Four: You have to know that if things go poorly in a set, she is not rejecting you. You have to understand this because otherwise it will ruin your mindset for the night, and possible be a big blow to your self esteem. She can’t be rejecting you because she doesn’t know you my friends. She is rejecting what you represent. If you run a bad set, you represent a weak, needy, lame guy who just wants to hit on her. She doesn’t know you personally, so you can’t take it personally. I mean it still sucks, but you can’t let it affect your mood or sense of self worth.

You guys lucked out, lol thank my buddy J. He just called me to tell me about his date from Saturday, and it went terrible. Long story short, he met a girl last week, finally got a date with her Saturday, and was stuck talking about boring school stuff and summer plans and non important small talk. At the end of the night he got a peck on the cheek as a kiss good night. As a result let me tell you the proper way go out on a “date” with a girl when you first meet her.

For starters, let’s talk about the way you ask her out. Don’t say “so would you like to go to dinner on friday night?” Don’t even ask her out in a traditional manner. The trick is to make it as low pressure as possible. Say “Hey, I’m on my way to grab some lunch, want to meet up. Dress casual though, i can only hang out for an hour or two.”

Using words like Casual and hanging out, and going to lunch rather than dinner, takes some pressure off. It’s a hell of a lot better than two people who may not have anything in common being stuck at dinner for hours of awkward, forced conversation. Traditional dating is just too right there, you two just met really and you’re stuck right in each other’s faces all night. It’s going to be awkward like that.

Another tip, say you and some friends are going to the park and she should join you, and tell her she can even bring some friends if she’d like. It’s low pressure, you can even impress her by being so social and having awesome friends.

Doing the whole dating thing this way is a lot easier, a lot more comfortable for a few reasons. It’s low pressure, it shows you have something better to do than cling to her, it’s fun, and it makes it a lot easier for you to get another date, and the next one can actually be a date. Best part is, after hanging out in a low pressure situation, you guys are going to be a lot more comfortable and, at the very least, have something to talk about during the dinner.

So no more awkward dinners and pecks on the cheek guys, hang out, have fun, and then set the scene for something more romantic. It took me a while to figure this out guys, but I promise you it will work.

-Nikki

Ok guys, before I start this, I want to apologize if you feel like I’m not teaching enough about game yet. The thing is, there’s certain things you have to know before hand, like you can’t just go onto the gridiron and play football, you have to learn the rules first. I’m just giving the basic concepts and theories that guide and shape game into what it is now.

Also I want to apologize if you don’t like reading these long detailed posts, but the thing is, you have to understand why these techniques work. I mean for fucks sake guys, i could give you all the “lines” or routines in my head, i could prepare an entire script for you, and you will not even get a phone number, because knowing what to say isn’t even half the battle, it’s how to say it, and why it works.

Anyway, back to the point of this post, which is guys complaining that they don’t look good enough. You’d be surprised by how many guys feel this way, and how it affects their interactions with women, and mostly the women they interact with.

From my years in game, I learned something very important: Genetic looks, do NOT matter. I mean, I won’t lie, if you look like Brad Pitt, it definitely helps. However, genetically speaking, looks do not matter, at all. What matters is being well groomed.

When you go out, make sure you shower, and shave, and you smell good. Lose the 3xl tee shirt and overly baggy jeans. Trim the fingernails, brush your teeth. When you shave, make sure you get the back of your neck, overly bushy eye brows, unsightly nose hair, whatever.

Also, try and get to the gym, get a tan, if you’re pale. To my older friends out there, if you are balding, lose the tumble weeds, go completely bald. Balding is not a choice, bald is. If a girl gives you shit about it give them a clever response like “I used to have my hair down past my ass, but then i realized it was covering my best feature.”

The point is, be well groomed. That’s what matters. If you guys would like send me pictures and questions, I’d be glad to critique style, and give my honest suggestions and opinions.

-Nikki

Today guys we’re going to talk about the basic format I believe in. The game is a linear process, there actually is a step by step process you can follow from not knowing a girl, to getting her into your bed.

There’s a a lot of other people who know game, who are as good as or better at it than me, all with their own views on this process, or some dont even use a process (I do know most of them so talk to me if this doesn’t feel right for you)

This process is just something basic, that anyone can apply and use. here it is

1. Open (meaning to approach the girl)

2. Demonstrate Value (show her that you are better than every other guy who hit on her tonight)

3. Kino (Kino is short for kinesthetic which basically just means touch, this is much more important than you’d think)

4. Build Rapport (Rapport=Trust+Comfort, you have to create an emotional connection)

5. Close (from numbers to sex)

That’s the game in a nutshell, I’ll go into much greater detail about all these in coming posts, just a little thing so you guys get the basic structure of what I’m doing and going to be teaching you

Evenin lovelies! I woke up and decided to write about something that’s plagued many minds, male and female alike, and that’s why people don’t want what’s right in front of them, why do they like to go out and search when they have this great thing right under their nose?

The answer: people don’t respect things that fall into their laps. We know this on some subconscious level, and that’s why things that are way too easy are no fun for us. Think of a cat playing with a string. If you dangle it right above it’s head, barely out of reach, it goes crazy trying to get it. It will dance and flip and jump and reach trying to get the string. But think of what happens once you drop the string in the cat’s paws. It just looks at it, gets bored, and walks away.

What you guys have to do, is make them work for your attention/affection. You can’t just give yourself to them right off the bat, they will lose interest. The trick is two steps forward, one step back at all times.

A few examples of what I mean:

If a girl is throwing her arms around you and touching, in a joking manner say “whoa hands off the merchandise, this shit aint free ya know” and take her hands off you. It’s funny, it’s playful, and it lets her know that you are not going to be won over so easy.

When you’re out talking to a girl, make sure to rock on your back foot so that it looks like you might leave at any time. She’s going to work to try and keep you around if you’ve been playing the game right.

But make sure you’re just barely out of her reach, and once she’s worked hard enough and it seems like she’s about to give up, reward her for her efforts. Tell her you just noticed she’s got an amazing smile and grab her hand. This is how the game is played. It sounds counter-intuitive, but, trust me it works. For more questions you can reach me at inadenwetrust@gmail.com

This is mostly for my guys out there who can’t figure out how to cross that line of friends into lovers. Here’s what most of your female friends will tell you all the time, and it honestly is some of the worst advice I’ve ever heard.

The first is be yourself. You hear it all the time “Don’t change, just be you, someone will come along eventually.” I have a few things about that, for starters, if it was that easy, then that cute girl that just wants to be your friend, would be your girlfriend or friend with benefits. I mean, I’m going to be completely honest (and don’t be offended this is something that took me a long time to learn, and I’ve applied it to myself and trust me, I’m much more successful with women) and you need to realize, that sometimes being yourself, just isn’t good enough, you need to be your best self. And it’s going to take some time to figure out who that guy is. I’m not saying change completely, or become something other than who you are now or anything like that. It took me several years to figure out who my best self is, ask anyone of my friends who knew me well for a few years, they will confess to the transformation I went through. I’m stil lthe same guy, I’m just a more confident, happier, more social, more comfortable version of myself, i am my best self. Now if you’d like, get in contact with me, I will do my very best to help you find out who your best self is and bring that guy to the surface.

The second thing I hate hearing is to be confident. “Girls like confidence.” That is actually very true, the problem is, if you haven’t had much success in dating or sex or anything, how can you just be confident? Confidence isn’t something you can just decide you’re going to be one day.

So now what?  You learn to play the game

The reason I love the game, the reason I teach it and practice it, is because it works all the time.here’s how I got confident, I followed the format, I learned the rules and principles of attraction and put them into practice. And i wasn’t confident at first, but then, using all these tools and gambits and stories, I actually got success. That’s when I became confident. Success breeds confidence guys. Go out there, use this material, you will become confident, and it’s much better advice than your friends who never had a problem with girls, or the girls who only want to be your friend telling you to “be confident and be yourself”